Caregiver fatigue happens when caregivers burn themselves out caring for a loved one. They do not get enough sleep, take enough breaks, or take time away, resulting in mental, physical, and emotional exhaustion.
The needs of a loved one can be minimal or great, but for many, fatigue is written off as they chug caffeine and continue on. However, our bodies have a way of getting our attention and telling us to stop. It is so important for caregivers to care for themselves before caring for others.
How Do I Know if I Have It?
There's a difference between feeling tired and feeling burned out. A tired person can feel refreshed after a nap or a weekend away from work. People who are experiencing burnout will not feel refreshed, may feel uptight or edgy, and can also have anxiety or depression. They can become too tired to take care of their affairs and just aren't who they used to be.
What Can I Do?
Self-care is important. Whether you are currently experiencing caregiver fatigue or just starting to feel you aren't quite yourself, there are some ways to help get relief:
Do only what you can do.
It's okay to say no.
Take ten minutes each day just for you.
Pray for your loved one(s) before you begin your day.
Have a back-up plan for days when you can't be there.
Recruit help, once a week, so you can get out and get some fresh air.
Speak life in place of complaining.
Play worship music while completing daily tasks.
Grab a cozy blanket, hot tea, and a good book!
Dim the lights.
Purposely do the things you love to do. Many people "wait until" while the years fly by. Do it now!
Vent! Find someone you trust that you can talk to about how you're feeling. Then pray together and ask God for strength for each new day.
Hindsight is 20/20
When we know better, we do better. I wish someone had taught me the value of sitting down and relaxing. I was so caught up in being the "perfect" mom to my disabled son that I wore myself and my body out.
I now encourage caregivers to intentionally make time for themselves. If you are not well, you will be no good for those who need you.
I will also add that if you feel like you can't cope or handle your situation, please seek professional counseling or contact your doctor.
Sis. Alysha Dyess attends Christian Life Church in Mequon, WI.